Help Meet’s Helper

In your “I love you” journal or a card finsih this sentence.

The thing about you that most inspires me is _____________.
Explain why.

Bless your husband today with your words.

1 Samuel 14:7 And his armourbearer said unto him, Do all that is in thine heart: turn thee; behold, I am with thee according to thy heart.

As your husband’s armourbearer ( the one who makes sure he has what he needs; through prayer, or physically or emotionally, to stand against the world) be sure you give him what he needs the most — YOU.

Bless your husband today with your touch.

1 Samuel 14:6-7
6 And Jonathan said to the young man that bare his armour, Come, and let us go over unto the garrison of these uncircumcised: it may be that the LORD will work for us: for there is no restraint to the LORD to save by many or by few.
7 And his armourbearer said unto him, Do all that is in thine heart: turn thee; behold, I am with thee according to thy heart.

Ask your husband, is there anything that he has always wanted to do that he has yet to accomplish or has given up on?
Is there any way you can help him with this dream?
Would he persue this dream if he knew you would answer him with 1 Samuel 14:7?

Bless your husband today with an interest in his hopes and dreams and the resolve to stand with him in his pursuits.

Read 1 Samuel 14:6-7
6 And Jonathan said to the young man that bare his armour, Come, and let us go over unto the garrison of these uncircumcised: it may be that the LORD will work for us: for there is no restraint to the LORD to save by many or by few.
7 And his armourbearer said unto him, Do all that is in thine heart: turn thee; behold, I am with thee according to thy heart.

Pray for your husband as he leads your family. Pray that his decisions will be God given and God honoring. Pray that whatever his leadership decisions are you will loyaly and gracefully submit and go with him anywhere.

Bless your husband today with specific prayer

Read 1 Samuel 14:6-15
6  And Jonathan said to the young man that bare his armour, Come, and let us go over unto the garrison of these uncircumcised: it may be that the LORD will work for us: for there is no restraint to the LORD to save by many or by few.
7  And his armourbearer said unto him, Do all that is in thine heart: turn thee; behold, I am with thee according to thy heart.
8  Then said Jonathan, Behold, we will pass over unto these men, and we will discover ourselves unto them.
9  If they say thus unto us, Tarry until we come to you; then we will stand still in our place, and will not go up unto them.
10  But if they say thus, Come up unto us; then we will go up: for the LORD hath delivered them into our hand: and this shall be a sign unto us.
11  And both of them discovered themselves unto the garrison of the Philistines: and the Philistines said, Behold, the Hebrews come forth out of the holes where they had hid themselves.
12  And the men of the garrison answered Jonathan and his armourbearer, and said, Come up to us, and we will shew you a thing. And Jonathan said unto his armourbearer, Come up after me: for the LORD hath delivered them into the hand of Israel.
13  And Jonathan climbed up upon his hands and upon his feet, and his armourbearer after him: and they fell before Jonathan; and his armourbearer slew after him.
14  And that first slaughter, which Jonathan and his armourbearer made, was about twenty men, within as it were an half acre of land, which a yoke of oxen might plow.
15  And there was trembling in the host, in the field, and among all the people: the garrison, and the spoilers, they also trembled, and the earth quaked: so it was a very great trembling.

As we read about Jonathan’s plan it seems a bit strange and even foolish.  Or as my DH says, “There is a fine line between faith a foolishness, watch for it.”
If we equate Jonathan with our husband and ourselves with the armourbearer and whatever it is our husband has determined is God’s road or current load for our family with the Philistines, can we see a course of action we as wives should follow?
Does the Bible say that the armourbearer rolled his eyes, heaved great and mighty sighs, questioned every step and every word, or discussed the plan and lack of strategy with his parents?  No, He simply said, “Do all that is in thine heart: turn thee; behold, I am with thee according to thy heart.” and followed him up that hill ready to tackle the job shoulder to shoulder.

How’s your attitude in regard to your husband’s leadership?  Is it time for an attitude adjustment?

Bless your husband today with an armourbearers attitude and unquestioning submission to his leadership.

1 Samuel 14:7  And his armourbearer said unto him, Do all that is in thine heart: turn thee; behold, I am with thee according to thy heart.
Context: 1 Samuel 14 1-7

Are you as loyal to your husband as Jonathan’s armourbearer was to him?  Can you truly say to your husband, “… Do all that is in thine heart … I am with thee according to thy heart?”   Does your husband KNOW he can count on you?   Does He know you will be there no matter what?

Write your husband a note telling him that you are “with him”.
If you can’t do that then you and God need to have a meeting.

Bless your husband today with your loyalty and with your words

Keeping your husband in mind Read Ecclesiastes 4:9-12,
9 “Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.
10 For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.
11 Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?
12 And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

These verses speak to unity and partnership. They give us good admonition for staying close and connected. You need the closeness of your husband and he needs your closeness as well. Not only physical closeness but mental and spiritual closeness as well.
Make sure your husband knows that you stand with him in his decisions. He needs to know that even if he messes up you will be there to lift him up not slap him down. You will be there to gently and lovingly warm his cooling heart when he is tempted to quit. You will always believe in him, stand up for him, and be his cheerleader. You will contentedly walk close to him as he submits to God’s leading on the road God has chosen for your family.

Bless your husband today with the “touch” of your love, joyful submission, contentment, and consistent unity.

Keeping your husband in mind Read Ecclesiastes 4:9-12,
9  “Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.
10  For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.
11  Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?
12  And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

After you have put the children to bed or ask your husband for some time together.  Ask him to read this scripture with or to you.  Then ask him what the verses say to him in regards to the two of you and your family.  Listen to what he says, really listen.  Learn from him.

Bless your husband today with your time and attention.

Two weeks ago I had quite the adventure.   I woke up at 3:30 A.M. with what felt like 20 basketball players taking pregame practice shots in my chest.   Having experienced this 13 years ago I knew what was happening in my chest.  At first I laid there hoping and praying it would just go away and the steady bounce, bounce of that essential to life muscle would resume.  I sat on the edge of the bed hoping that would change things.  I walked back and forth beside my bed praying for a change.  When the clock passed the 10 minute mark (which technically was already too long)  since I had awakened I knew my heart was stuck in atrial fibrillation and was going to need medical help to return to normal rhythm.  I woke up my DH and told him what was happening.  He gave the chest a listen and got dressed.  DH put shoes on my feet, a sweater around my shoulders and off we went to the nearest Emergency Room.

Two IVs, medication, multiple visits from the blood drawers, and 18 hours later I was loaded into an ambulance for the 45 minute trip to the hospital where my cardiologist is affiliated and the closest facility that participates with our insurance.

Good thing that gurney was locked down!  The curvy road between my town and the hospital was taken at quite a clip.  But even that fearful experience didn’t make my heart beat correctly.  Upon arrival at the hospital the EMT began sliding the gurney out of the equipment laden cave.  As the gurney locked in place 3/4 of the way out I noticed an intense choking sensation.  The oxygen line in my nose, around my ears and around my jaw was now a noose around my neck being tightened by whatever it had attached itself to behind my head.  Being as how I was already voiceless (had been for 5 weeks) the noose made any type of noise from the vocal region impossible.  I had to clap my hands to get the EMT’s attention.  At which time they sprang into action attempting to extract me from the noose.  A couple of minutes and a small nose job later, we were on our way to my 3 day stay in the cardiac step down unit.

Only God knows why my heart decided to flip out of it’s normal tickety, tockety rhythm.  Only God knows when and if it will happen again.  Only God knows how long it will take me to adjust to this new medication and stop being so dreadfully tired.  Only God knows when the tickety, tockety will stop altogether.  Only God knows, not me, not my family, not my cardiologist.  Only God.  Until then I will do my best to trust Him, be content with His choices, continue to do what I can, and remember that Romans 8:28 is still true.

Romans 8:28, “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”

Have a fabulous Day!

Keeping your husband in mind Read Ecclesiastes 4:9-12,
9 “Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.
10 For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.
11 Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?
12 And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

Pray for your husband’s stamina and ability to stand for what is right. You have the unique ability to pray intimately (you know him better than anyone else on earth) for the man God has given you. Lift him up to God. Stand with him through prayer and in prayer.

Bless your husband today with prayer.